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Fatwa CenterHis grandfather exploits him financially and controls his choice of a wife
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Salaam Alaykum sheikh,
My mother’s father is insisting me to marry in Saudi Arabia with Saudi woman, he laid many benefits on my neck, he told me not to marry in my own nationality when I go there and I responded affirmatively.
I also assume that he is expecting me to help him with financial support in future (though he has two elder sons and living a good life) as he does with every working individual. I am still young, I don’t want to listen or be under his authority. I want to marry of my own choice and not in others preference, but the problem which is troubling me is that when he said these things, I responded him by saying “ok”.
Also, is it obligatory to contribute financial benefits to my mother’s father, he is not poor or living in poverty, then why he is trapping me?
I think that he is seeking future benefits from me by money and financial support and I think that its not obligstory on me to support him, is this true?
Now, am I sinning if disobey him and his ideas or can I follow what I wish?
Can I cutt-off relationships with him or can I be away from him without responding his calls?
Sorry sir I have many questions in one column.
Jazaak ALLAHu Khair'un
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
Your grandfather has no right to oblige you to marry whom he wants, and you are not obliged to obey him in this and you are not obliged to fulfill your promise to him. Rather, it is permissible for you to marry whomever you wish and you are not sinful in this regard - Allaah willing. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 120515.
Since your grandfather has children who are well-off, then they are the ones who are obligated to spend on him and thus you are not obligated to spend on him or to give him the money that he asks for whereas he is not in need of it. Nonetheless, it is better to obey him in giving him what you are not harmed by giving it because spending money on the relatives is considered as keeping ties with kinship and it is one of the acts of righteousness that are beloved by Allaah.
As regards cutting ties with him without being harmed by keeping ties with him, then this is not permissible because cutting ties with kinship is one of the grave major sins. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 98733.
Allaah Knows best.
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