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asalam alaikum i am a new muslim recently married. My marriage is troubled with arguments,violence towards me,bad language n self harm on my part. I suffer with health issues dat effects my day to day life with having pain nearly everyday on top of all of that i suffer with very low self esteem n depression. Me n my husband have seperatd due to our recent argument which he was very violent towards me. I want to be closer to Allah desperatly but my life is all over the place and i dnt want to b seperated frm my husband either i knw we both need to reform our characters i jst dnt knw what to do i feel so lost. I feel so worthless i knw wat people will say if we reconcile but i dnt want to let go. Please help me
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we thank and praise Allaah Who guided you to Islam and we ask Him to make you firm and steadfast on His Religion until the Day you meet Him.
We advise you to seek beneficial knowledge, perform good deeds and befriend righteous and pious women, as these are the best things that help a Muslim woman remain steadfast on her religion.
Both spouses are ordered in the Sharee’ah to have a good marital relationship with each other; Allaah Says (what means): {And due to them [i.e. the wives] is similar to what is expected to them, according to what is reasonable.}[Quran 2:228] Allaah especially ordered the husbands to do that with their wives as He Says (what means): {And live with them in kindness.}[Quran 4:19] For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 85308 and 88304.
Therefore, if your husband is as you mentioned in the question in dealing with you, then he is not having a good marital relationship with you and he has deviated from the great teachings of Islam which forbids injustice and transgression and considers the best men to be those who are best to their wives.
Hence, the first thing we advise you to do is to supplicate to Allaah to rectify him, as Allaah is able to do so in just a moment. Then, you should have a mutual understanding with him and remind him of the most important objective of Islam behind legislating marriage, which is tranquility and peace between the spouses, and remind him of how the Prophet used to be with his wives as he said: “The best amongst you are those who are the best to their wives, and I am the best to my wives.” [At-Tirmithi and Ibn Maajah]
If you need the help of some trustworthy and righteous people, then you should seek their help as their advice might benefit your husband and he might be rectified. If this is achieved, then praise be to Allaah, otherwise you have the right to ask him for divorce due to the harm. However, you should take it easy because it might be that being patient with him is better than asking for divorce. So, you should take the initiative to reconcile with him and not take into consideration what people might say.
On the other hand, if by separation from your husband you mean that you left your husband’s home without his permission, then this is not permissible unless you have a sound reason, like fearing that he will transgress you and so forth. It should also be mentioned that separation in itself does not lead to divorce even if it is over a long period of time. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 82732.
Finally, we advise you to return to your husband’s home and reconcile with him, and endeavor to rectify him and do whatever may strengthen the bond of love and affection between both of you.
Allaah Knows best.
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