She lacks affection and love from her husband
18-10-2009 | IslamWeb
Question:
Asalamu alaykum My question is how to advice a husband who spends a lot of time watching TV and using Internet.i do not want that my children to see this, to take example. we do not go out together for family day, we do not talk face to face coz most of the time he listens to me while using the Internet. i use 2 talk alot before marriage .i want him 2 spend some time with me talk 2 me and take me out i don wan him to spend money on me but just spend time with me Our relationship which was once loving and caring has become cold and separate we barly speak and have fallen out of love we sleep in separate beds after our 1st child. we r just 2 people living in same house but he use 2 sleep almost all the time or net or tv it feels like nobody lives in this house i am soo upset he is not a bad man he loves me but i dont know the reason when i ask him he said dont know or dont disturb me he dont ask me why iam crying why i dint eat anythin or why iam upset what should i do ?and now its been 3 monts my daughter is 2 month old now when i touch him or just sit near him he just avoid me,.. men have feelings n women dont i do have feelings sir i wan him to just hold me ..am not asking for sex but atleast i wan him to feel me i am his wife n we still have some relation .. i am soo much disturb.. now i use 2 sit alone and dont talk much .. but he didnt understand why i am behaving like this .. i don wan anotjer baby coz its our 1st baby and he avoides me and u tell me when we have 1 more what will he do //? theere is no one who can make him understan that his wife need him as much as she needs him before marriage or before the birth of child ..help me i dont talk abt sex with him coz i know the answer ..NO.........
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Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
Allaah, The All-Wise and The Law Maker ordered the husband to live with his wife kindly; Allaah Says (what means): {And live with them in kindness.}[Quran 4:19] Therefore, if what you mentioned about your husband is confirmed that he is negligent in treating you, then he is disobeying the order of Allaah in the previous verse. For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 119794 and 88304.
Hence, we advise you to be patient with him and supplicate Allaah as much as possible to rectify him, as supplication is the best weapon of a believer in achieving his objective; Allaah Says (what means): {And your Lord Says, "Call upon Me; I Will Respond to you."}[Quran 40:60] Moreover, you should take care of him and beautify yourself to him. However, if you predominantly think that there is an abnormal matter, like magic and the like, so you should be keen to perform Ruqyah on him, and you may do so when he is asleep, or by reciting the Quran on the water that he drinks and the like. You may also ask him to perform Ruqyah on himself or look for someone to perform Ruqyah on him if you do not fear that discussing this matter with him will cause greater harm.
For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 84806 and 88705.
Allaah Knows best.