Her mother wants her to marry only a doctor
21-5-2007 | IslamWeb
Question:
assalamualikum i am 24 years old ,i feel this is the right age for me to get marry but my parents do not show any interest in my marriege , so i am looking proposals for my self .my mother is a pateint of schezophenia (a kind of mental disorder) she says ,she will show interest only if i marry any doctor and she is not responsible if i marry any other person . i am an evarage looking girl and i am looking for a religious groom with any qualifications .many proposals are comming my way but i am scared to go against my mothers will.and about my father , he leaves every single decision on me , he is least interested his children's affairs be it marrige or my career . considering that my mother is a mental disorder patient shall i go against her will it means i will be disobeying her or shall i wait for an year or so till i find a doctor groom .i feel if i disobey my parents i will never be happy . what should i do
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we thank you for being keen to be kind to your mother. We ask Allaah to bless you with the good of this world and that of the Hereafter for doing so, and we ask Him to bless you with a pious husband.
There is no doubt that the children are religiously ordered to obey their parents, but this obedience should be within what is permissible. However, it is not within what is permissible for parents to ask their daughter to marry a man who has certain characteristics, and if such a man is available she will marry otherwise no, as this may cause clear harm to her.
If this is confirmed, then it is permissible for you to go against the will of your mother and marry a suitable and competent man who proposes to you, even if your mother is mentally sound, let alone when she is a schizophrenia patient, as you mentioned.
Finally, it should be mentioned that it is permissible for a woman to look for a person to marry her provided she observes the religious requirements in doing so. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 83870.