Wants to marry a man who is still a student but her father refuses
9-7-2006 | IslamWeb
Question:
Asalam alaikum,I am a girl living in a western country,I met a very religious person wal hamd le allah,he asked me for marriage and he meet my parents ,my parents liked him al hamd le allah,but the problem is that he is still a student,and me too ,it has been now almost nine months that we know each other,al hamd le allah we had done nothing haram we try to talk as little as possible,I need an advice i want to convince my father to do the marriage contract but because he is a student my father thinks it is not a good thing,but it is hard because we don't want to do the haram but also because of the feelings we have towards one another.what is your adivice specially living in a western country and we want to protect ourselves,Jazak allah kheir
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
We appreciate your desire to follow Islam and to avoid any deed that contradicts Islam. May Allaah bless you and protect your from sins.
As you know, any kind of personal relations (even talking) with marriageable man without necessity is forbidden in Islam. So, you have to cut all contacts with this man. See Fatwa 84281.
We advise you to endeavor to convince your parents to marry you off since the studies do not contradict with marriage. But, marriage is more important than studies if one fears seduction or committing illegal sexual intercourse. See Fatwa 84534 about marriage during studies and Fatwa 90554 about the ruling of marriage if one fears temptation and Fatwa 82130 about how to convince the parents to accept the proposal of a pious man who proposed to their girl. If your father insists not to marry you off to that man you have to obey him and be patient read Fatwa 89974.
Allaah Knows best.