Wants to marry two wives
15-5-2006 | IslamWeb
Question:
Salem Alikom, I want to know is it allowed for me to marry two wives? I want to have 2 wives one that is an arab lady and the other one is a japanese lady. My mother will not allow me to marry two ladies and she doesnt like japanese people for some reason. What is your fawta concerning this. The reason why i want to marry two wives is because I never had any relationships with any females; and i am also with friends who always have many female friends and commit illegal sexual relationships with them and they also pressure me to commit acts like them but i stubbornly refuse. In others words, i want to marry two ladies because these way i am rewarding myself for not commiting illegal sexual relationship.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
Islam allows a man to marry as many as four wives provided he feels capable of being just between them. Allaah Says (what means): {…then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one….}[Quran 4:3]
Therefore, if you are able to be just, you may marry a second wife; it even becomes compulsory if you fear to commit adultery. If this Japanese woman is Muslim, religious and of noble character, or she is a chaste Christian or Jew, then try to convince your mother to allow you to marry her. Tell her that the criteria for marriage in Islam are the religion of a woman and her character not her nationality or anything else. Inform your mother that this marriage may yield beneficial results.
If your mother becomes satisfied with you and accepts your second marriage, then praise be to Allaah, otherwise you have to give priority to the obedience of your mother over your marriage to this woman, because obeying your mother in lawful matters is compulsory while marrying a specific woman is not compulsory. Hence, what is compulsory takes precedence over what is not so. There are many other women; so search for another one, and Allaah may bless you with a woman who is better than this one. Allaah Says (what means): {But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allaah Knows, while you know not.}[Quran 2:216]
Allaah Knows best.