Seeking a good Muslim wife
16-8-2005 | IslamWeb
Question:
I'm Yazeed I live be in the UK 5years. So I was looking get married with Muslim woman but all women that look for good life I mean good money good home and good car and looking good. My questions why these women they say we are Muslims good Mu'min think the good Muslim that he makes easy life for others true or not. Please tell me as soon as possible.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
Marriage is among the great goals of Islam since it leads to the chastity of the spouses and increases the progeny, and the like. Due to its advantages many Islamic texts order Muslims to get married. Allaah Says (which means): {And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves.}[24:32].
The Prophet 
said: "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e., his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse, etc.)." [Al-Bukhari]
Islam encourages simplifying marriage and avoiding extravagance in this matter. This was the practice of the Prophet whether he himself married or married others off.
Imaam Abu Daawood
reported that 'Umar 
delivered a speech to the people and said: "Do not exaggerate in your demand for a woman's dowry, for if such practice reflected honor in this world and piety in Allaah's sight, the most entitled to do so would have been the Prophet . He did not marry any of his wives or requested for any of his daughters more than twelve Awqiyahs."
Though Islam does not set a limit for the maximum dowry, Muslim men and women should pursue the way of simplifying the matter of marriage. In fact, extravagant demands during the marriage contract results in great disadvantages like increasing the number of spinsters, increasing the incidence of illegal sexual intercourse, etc.
Know, dear brother, that Allaah has promised to support the one who married with the intention of safeguarding his chastity. Allaah Says (which means): {And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If they should be poor, Allaah will enrich them from His bounty, and Allaah is all-Encompassing and Knowing.}[24:32].
Imaam At-Tirmithi narrated that the Prophet said: "There are three whom it is the right upon Allaah to help them, then he mentioned among them: the one who marries in order to preserve his chastity."
So, you have to supplicate Allaah truly and sincerely; if you are sincere, then Allaah will facilitate your matters.
You have to try hard to keep yourself chaste by being conscious of Allaah and fasting frequently. The Prophet said: "Whoever is unable to marry, should fast, as fasting helps him control his sexual desire." [Al-Bukhari]
We encourage you to aspire to marry a religious girl of good character; as you will have a happy life with such a wife. The Prophet said: "Choose the religious one, you will prosper." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Allaah Knows best.