Virginity is not an obligation

4-10-2003 | IslamWeb

Question:

I m a Muslim from Turkey and at present I lives in Belgium. I have met a girl she is daughter of the sister of my mother. This summer we had an engagement and Insha Allah, next summer we will marry. My question is: She says she is a virgin and I believe her because she prays 5 times a day alj-Hamdu Lillah, she is a Muslim. But what when we meet first night and she does not bleed after intercourse. Does this mean she is not a virgin anymore?

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Answer:

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions. Many young people who decide to get married for the first time believe that deflowering a virgin girl is a difficult task. They think that it causes much bleeding and pain. However, this is not true. In fact, the hymen is a thin layer. Doctors say that it is thinner than the cigarette paper. They add that the man does not encounter any resistance while penetrating his penis into his wife's vagina neither does she feel much pain unless she suffers from a spasm and contracts her muscles. This usually causes the dripping of one or two drops of blood that usually mix with the sperm of the man and the vaginal discharges of the woman. As a result, the blood does not appear in the secretions. So, it cannot be noticed by anyone. Such things, differ from one girl to another. Some girls' hymen is elastic. So, it does not get destroyed during the man's penetration. It is deflowered only during the woman's first delivery. Similarly some ladies hymens can get removed without having had any sexual intercourse: a jump can be the cause as can be the finger or the intensity of menstruation period, …etc. If any of the above is the cause of her deflowering then she is considered virgin in reality and judged as such. So, no importance for not seeing blood at the first corporal contact and this does not mean anything. Allah knows best.