Teenager in Love with Girl

21-5-2001 | IslamWeb

Question:

I am 15. I have loved a girl for 2 years. I still do. I think of her almost ever night. Nothing sexual. I have phone contact with her. I just request your help in what should I do towards my feeling towards her?

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Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

First of all, we advise you to fear Allah and devote yourself to what would bring you benefits in this life and the Hereafter.

Know also that you must immediately end all your illicit relations with this girl as the phone calls you make to her will make you more attracted to her. So, these calls are forbidden. The Prophet warned us against the temptations caused by women and he said that they are the most harmful temptations for his Ummah.

The Prophet also said: “The child of Adam has to have his share of Zina (adultery or fornication) no matter how well he/she endeavors to avoid it. The Zina of the eyes is by gazing (at what is forbidden), the Zina of the ears is by listening (to what is forbidden), the Zina of the tongue is by talking, the Zina of the hands is by touching, the Zina of the foot is by walking [to forbidden places], and the heart desires and wishes. Then, the private parts either submit to this or deny it.” [Muslim]

So, we advise you to avoid any contact with this girl and anything that could make you remember her. Know also that the sane and intelligent person does not let his heart hang or be attracted to a thing that he could not obtain in a lawful way.
If you are able to get married to her and she is a good and chaste girl, then we advise you to marry her if she accepts your offer.

We ask Allah The Almighty to purify your heart, to make you chaste and protect you against bad and evil.

Allah knows best.