When a Father Refuses a Suitable Proposal or Pressures His Daughter Into Marriage
27-4-2026 | IslamWeb
Question:
I want to marry a guy his family is fully into this. But my father and elder brother is not willing for this they rejected everything without any sharai reason. Even thay guy is practicing Muslim and financially stable he dont commit shirk or biddah. Still my father and brother are not even listening to them for my proposal . What would you say about this situation and my father said that he dont want to listen his name again. If I ask again he would marry me with someone else forcefully.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad (ﷺ) is His Slave and Messenger.
A guardian—whether a father or someone else—should not refuse a suitor who is committed to the teachings of Islam. The Sunnah encourages accepting such a suitor, as stated in the hadith: “If there comes to you one with whose character and religious commitment you are pleased, then marry [your daughter or female relative under your care] to him.” [At-Tirmidhi]
However, it is well known that a father in particular is often among the most concerned for his daughter’s best interests. He wants what is best for her and seeks a husband through whom he hopes she will find happiness. For this reason, we advise you to speak with the father in a respectful manner and try to convince him, or at least listen to his reasoning, as he may have a valid point of view. It may also be helpful to seek assistance from people close to him.
If there is concern that he is wrongfully preventing the marriage, then the matter may be taken to an Islamic court.
The stronger scholarly view is that a father does not have the right to force his daughter to marry a man she does not wish to marry. If he marries her to such a man, she has the right to seek annulment of the marriage contract.
We emphasize the importance of dialogue. If the daughter is able to accept a suitable match chosen by her father, then she should do so, as honoring her father may be a means for happiness and success in married life.
Allah Knows best.