All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
Marital life is a long journey, so it should be established on foundations that will enable it to be stable and enduring, and one should avoid anything that exposes it to destruction or destabilization and makes it lose its spirit, which is love and compassion.
It is a pity that the problems which you mentioned happened at the beginning of this marital life, and the same goes for the bad relationship between you and your family and the family of your wife and the fact that there is a call for separation at the beginning of this short period of time after the marriage contract already.
Hence, we recommend that the rational and righteous people should intervene to bring the views closer and solve the problem.
If this is achieved, then praise be to Allah, but if the matter continues as it is, then you may consider to divorce.
Divorce may be better sometimes, especially given that you did not yet consummate the marriage. So divorce before the consummation of the marriage is easier than after its consummation and having children. This is as far as advice is concerned.
As regards the Islamic ruling regarding divorce, then first of all, you do not have to obey your parents if they order you to divorce her without a sound reason. For more benefit, please refer to fatwas 84808 and 84056.
The same thing applies to your wife if her parents order her to ask for a divorce. She is not obliged to obey them unless there is a sound Islamic reason. For more benefit, please refer to fatwas 85701 and 222562.
Secondly, if you have issued a divorce, then it is effective. Coercion does not prevent divorce from being effective if it did not reach the extent that is Islamically considered.
The jurists stated a solution for the divorce not taking place in such a situation; which is that you should have two witnesses to bear witness that if you divorce, you are obliged to do so [and that it is not with your own will], in which case divorce does not take place.
However, this method may not always be feasible. So take it easy and consult trustworthy people; and if there is no solution except divorce, then let it happen; hoping that Allah will facilitate a spouse for each one of you, and with whom each one of you will be happy.
Allah says (what means): {But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.} [Quran 2:216]
Allah also says (what means): {But if they separate [by divorce], Allah will enrich each [of them] from His abundance. And ever is Allah Encompassing and Wise.} [Quran 4:130]
Al-Qurtubi said, “Even if they do not reconcile and they separate, they should both have good expectations from Allah; Allah may bless the man with a wife who will be a comfort to his eyes and bless the woman with a man who would abundantly spend on her.”
For more benefit, please refer to fatwa 241252.
Allah knows best.