He wants to marry but his parents refuse until he finds work

22-7-2015 | IslamWeb

Question:

Assalam o alaikumi do not talk to my parents because they are refusing to marry me because they say i am un-employed and they say first get a job but my need for marriage is very great and i am keeping continual fasts but i do not think i can regularly keep them as i become weak?Note that the can easily support me in marriage until i get a job but are refusing?

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Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ʻalayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.

You should know that it is impermissible for you to shun your parents under any given circumstances, because doing so is considered undutifulness, which is a grave sin. It is incumbent on you to repent from that. Please refer to Fataawa 87856 and 89078.

We have previously highlighted some of the ways for the son who cannot bear the expenses of marriage to convince his parents to help him get married. Please refer to Fataawa 81432, 85165 and 90079.

Finally, we would like to point out that scholars held different views regarding the ruling on the father paying for the marriage costs of a son who is not able. The Hanbalis held that the father is obligated to assist his son in getting married in such a case; however, the majority of the scholars maintained that he is not obligated to do so. The opinion of the majority of the scholars is the correct one in our view on Islamweb.

Allaah Knows best.