Her husband's desire of divorce is based on false accusations
18-1-2013 | IslamWeb
Question:
Assalamu-alikum, married, has 2 kids, my husband accused me of I am willing to harm him by putting some kind of shyton deeds, such as poison him with shyton deeds. I never done any of these things he accused me with and never willing to do, because it is shrike. I love my Allah more than him and I love my Hakira (here after,) may Allah grated me with his Janna /Haven, that is my only wish. Now he is willing to divorce me and he already said once “I divorce you” with something I never done. My question is I still love him and still willing to keep our marriage for the sake of our little children. I try to convince him that I never comment in such sin, but still he is not willing to accept or believe me. Even though, I have not done such sin, I don’t want him to divorce me because of this reason and I don’t want him to accuse me with it too, because it hurt me so much. Please give me an advice on what decision I should take. Accept his wish or stay fight for our marriage and make dua for me please, thank you
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.
It is Islamically established that in principle a Muslim is innocent of any accusations, and it is an obligation to think good of him unless the contrary is proven against him. Allaah Says (what means): {O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin.} [Quran 49:12] For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 92038 and 128834.
Therefore, if your husband accuses you of something which you are innocent of, then he is very wrong especially that this has led him to being determined to divorce you. This is due to the evil of negative assumption which mostly results in bad consequences.
Hence, we first advise you to supplicate Allaah to rectify your husband and protect him from the evil of his own self and from the evil whispers of the devil. Then, you should advise him and remind him of Allaah and of the seriousness of such a negative assumption. You should be keen on showing him the contrary of what he thinks, by respecting him and being concerned about him and being a good wife to him and so forth. Also, you may seek the help of some rational and righteous people if necessary.
As regards divorce, in general it leads to many disadvantages, so one should not resort to it unless it becomes clear that it is the best solution. For more details, please refer to Fatwa 86307.
Finally, it should be mentioned that the saying of a husband to his wife “I divorce you”, in the present tense, does not lead to divorce unless he had intended it as we have already clarified in Fatwa 120269.
Allaah Knows best.