Her husband refuses to let her daughter from a previous marriage live with them
6-9-2012 | IslamWeb
Question:
I have daughter from my previous marriage. Because of family problems, I lived with my mom and my daughter has been adopted by my mom. so my daughter lived with me and my mom. After six years of marriage, I got a porposal for marriage. We told them that I am married but seperated. My current husband emphasize for divorce as he consider its time waste for me and my exhusband to stay seperate. Anyway I took khula and after 6 months married to my current husband. He knew that I have daughter and she was 4 years old. He knoew that If my mom died, My daughter will be his responsibility. after 7 years my mother died. Now my husband said that he wont let my daughter stay with me in usa. He send her to her dad. SHe is not happy there as she used to live with me and my mom. She was very attached with mom. And then me. but now she forcefully sent to her father. who has no problem with her but I want her with me. As she needs mother at this age. Please tell me that what should I do. I have one daughter with my current husband of age 4. My husband is namesake modern muslim. who dnt pray, pay zakat. always talk abt and think abt others women. Please give me guidance. ALLAH may bless you..amin
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
The fostering of the daughter after she reaches the age of seven is the right of the father, so she is not given the right to choose between her parents like the son. There is a difference of opinion among the scholars on this issue; however, the view that we have stated here is the view that we consider to be the preponderant one; for more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84618.
This ruling applies as long as the father does not have an impediment that makes him lose the right of fostering his daughter, like him becoming dissolute as clarified in Fatwa 90461.
Moreover, some jurists 
placed a condition that the husband should have a female who is suitable to foster his daughter in order to have the right of fostering her, as we clarified in Fatwa 131338.
In any case, the fostering of this daughter is the right of her father, and what you mentioned that this daughter is not happy with him because she used to live with you or that she is emotionally attached to you, then this does not make him lose the right of fostering if he deserves it. This is because he is hoped to protect and safeguard her, especially since you also mention that your current husband is negligent of his religion and regarding two major pillars of Islam which are the prayer and Zakat. If this is the case, then how can he be trusted to take care of the daughter, let alone the fact that in principle he has the right to refuse that your daughter resides with him in the same house? Moreover, you do not have the right to ask for the right of fostering while you are married to another husband and while there is another fosterer who meets the conditions of fostering.
Finally, your husband should be reminded of Allaah and of the danger of abandoning the prayer and refusing to pay the Zakat. In this regard, you may make use of the texts that are mentioned in Fataawa 88016 and 145065.
Allaah Knows best.