Do not marry him until he becomes a true Muslim and repents from Zina
22-3-2010 | IslamWeb
Question:
Assalam alaikum...
All Praise goes to allah...
Am writin this with full heart of sorrows:( i dont know whether allah will forgive me or not for my sin. Kindly help me out to come out from this hell . I fell in love with a non-muslim guy who is really very humble,kind and good in character. Moreoever he accepted the muslim principles, doing namaz and beliving allah more than anything thats the reason i loved him very much.
We taught to get marry with the parents permission. We had a relationship like kissing, scrubbing the body not to that extent. When i was doing for the first time we both felt very guilty,scared of allah and took promised not to do so. After that we got a chance to be alone and we cant control and did the same thing which we forgot the thing had promised not to do.It had continued for atleast 5 times.
We were feeling very bad for that incident happend that we forgot about allah anger and his principles. I dont know whether will forgive my sin and accepts my prayers of all to make us to live each other. Me and boyfriend doing namaz daily to get some mercy from allah. Some of the website stated that sex before marriege is not forbidden. I am really confused.
Will our prayers answerable? Will allah forgive us? Will allah make us to live together? Kindly give suggestion on this since i was not happy and frustrated without knowing the right solution. Jazak allahu khayrun. Kudha haffice.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to have an affectionate relationship with a non-Mahram man as we clarified in Fatwa 81356. Therefore, it becomes clear to you that what you read in some websites that having sex before marriage is not forbidden is absolutely wrong and it is a statement by an ignorant person who does not know anything about Islam and does not respect Islam. Such statements are probably propagated by those who do not wish any good for the Muslim woman and want to make her fall prey to wicked men to corrupt her religion and violate her honor; so you should be careful.
Hence, you are obliged to take the initiative to repent from this relationship and from other sins that you committed with that young man. You should praise Allaah that you did not go to the extent of committing Zina (fornication) with him which is a grave major sin. Again, we stress the fact that you should cut this relationship with that young man and completely avoid him.
On the other hand, you should think good of your Lord as He forgives the sins; Allaah Says (what means): {But indeed, I am the Perpetual Forgiver of whoever repents and believes and does righteousness and then continues in guidance.}[Quran 20:82] For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 87903.
As regards this young man marrying you, then you should think twice about it. Indeed, a non-Muslim would embrace Islam without him really willing to do so; rather, his objective would be to trick a Muslim girl and marry her. Once he would have achieved this, he would show her what he really is, then she would either be like him and become a non-Muslim or she would stay with him as a Muslim while he is a non-Muslim, and so, their sexual relationship would be nothing but Zina (fornication or adultery). It is also probable that dissension and disputes would happen between them and this might happen after she has children from him. Therefore, we advise you to be wise and rational and not to be affectionate.
However, you may seek the help of some trustworthy people to find out whether or not he has really embraced Islam and become a true Muslim. Then if it is predominantly thought that he sincerely embraced Islam, it becomes permissible for you to marry him and this marriage should fulfill the conditions of a valid marriage, with the consent of your guardian and the presence of two witnesses. For more benefit on the conditions of a valid marriage contract, please refer to Fatwa 83629.
However, if there is any doubt about his becoming a Muslim, you should avoid him, and Allaah may facilitate for you a marriage with a better husband. For more benefit on how to treat love sickness, please refer to Fatwa 84544.
Allaah Knows best.