Her husband refuses to listen to her complaints about his family
17-12-2009 | IslamWeb
Question:
assalamualikum,i married before 4 years ago.i tells something about my husband and his family.my father gave me 1 kg gold and 5 lakhs Indian rupees.my father-in-law took my cash and gold to his daughter marriage.my mother in law torture me many ways.sister-in-law's husband behaving me at vulgarly.After marriage my husband not good job,after 2 year got good job to him.that time my mother spend money for me.I could not tell my problems to husband firstly.I wrote all things in my personal diary.but my mother-in low and her daughter burned my diary.After my brother-in-law's marriage made many problems.His wife couldn't stay there.that time I told to husband my problems.After he went for job to Saudi.After many times tell my problems.he told me"my mother great.u study Quran in well.u can't rise my BP".so now i can't tell nothing.he called me every time.that time i told to him lovely words.if any way i told my problems he cut phone.how i tell to my problems to husband.if any problem,i tell to him.please give a good answer to give him.assalamualikum.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
The husband is religiously ordered to live with his wife in kindness as Allaah Says (what means): {And live with them in kindness.} [Quran 4:19] Among living in kindness is that the husband should endeavour to comfort his wife and ward off evil from her if he is able to do so. Moreover, he should not ignore her if she wants to complain. On the other hand, the wife should discuss her problem with him at a suitable time and in a soft manner, then the husband should investigate the matter because it is religiously an obligation to make sure about the news we hear. Allaah Says (what means): {O you who have believed if there comes to you a disobedient one with information, investigate, lest you harm a people out of ignorance and become, over what you have done, regretful.}[Quran 49:6]
Then, if it is confirmed that his family harm his wife, he should ward off their harm from her. Moreover, he is obliged to provide you with a separate accommodation if you want it and you are not religiously obliged to live with his family. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84608.
However, since your husband is outside the country, he may leave you with your family.
We advise the parents of the husband to fear Allaah with regard to the wife of their son, and we advise the wife to fear Allaah with regard to them, because good relationship should prevail between the in-laws.
Furthermore, if your father in-law took from you the gold and money that you mentioned and this was not with your consent, then this is not permissible and you have the right to ask him to return it to you, and you may seek the help of righteous people in this regard.
If he still does not respond, you have the right to take your matter to the authority that looks into the affairs of the Muslims in your country but you should be wise in everything that you do.
Allaah Knows best.