Wants to divorce his wife because he doubts her love and loyalty
9-4-2008 | IslamWeb
Question:
I find myself in a most unusual of a situation. I am 22 and teacher in a university.before 6 months I came to know a muslim girl an age of 16 .until this time i donot have a girl friend or relation with the women.I say "alhamdulilah"but the problem has started when i fell in love with her.then i told her to marry me and she say ok.when i am ready to inform her parents,i heard different bad things from many people.then i know that she had a boyfriend who is her teacher and lost her verginity with him and also told me since he is kafir(christain) she donot want to continue with him and she want to return from her sins.since she is my frist love,i accepted her and inform her parents.her parents accept my question with a great glads.then before a months we make "nikah".after nikah since every thing is halal(permissable),i ask her to make a love but she refused even she show me a different act even if she have an exprence before.one day after long debate she come to my home for the 1st time and we make love.during this time she told me what they have done with her boyfriends.evenif i donot told her any things,i become so sad because i think she has still love with him. so far i told her how much i love her but she does not tell me love word. the other thing at the time of nikah,evenif the the nikah made by a great sheh(imam),there is no idea reased about meher(a gift for her). now i want to divorce her because this things make me goes to mad. so pls help me in answering this questions 1.is my inital relation is not halal? 2.how about the meher if divorceing occured? 3.how relife my self from her love after divorcing since she is my first?
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
It is forbidden to establish an affectionate relationship with a non-Mahram woman, and whoever does so is obliged to repent; for more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 81356.
If the marriage fulfils the conditions of a correct marriage contract, the most important of which are the consent of the guardian and the presence of two witnesses, then it is a correct marriage. As regards not specifying the dowry, then this does not affect the validity of the marriage contract.
If we presume that you divorce this girl, she deserves the dowry of women of the same social status like her. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 104779.
As regards divorce, then this is something permissible if it becomes clear to you that this girl has not repented and is still attached to that man, in which case you should not keep her as a wife as she may disgrace you by bearing children from other men.
In any case, you should advise her to fear Allaah and avoid such a relationship. As regards the treatment for love sickness, then please refer to Fatwa 84544.
Finally, it should be noted that if a Muslim has committed a sin, he/she should conceal it as we clarified in Fatwa 84052.
Allaah Knows best.