Islam protects the wife's right in enjoyment and satisfaction

05/09/2023| IslamWeb

Question: 

It is recommended in Islam for men to marry virgin women. "Marry virgins for they have sweeter mouths, more productive wombs and are more pleased with less”. But for women it is recommended not to refuse a man because of their age and marital status (if he is already married) women even have got no right object if her husbands want to have more wives. Why man’s enjoyment, satisfaction and pleasure has been given more preference to the woman’s?

 

Fatwa:

 

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

 

First of all, you should know that being content with the religious rulings and surrendering oneself to them is the only way to salvation, and listening to the misconceptions which the devil and his (human and jinn) helpers whisper to a person are means for destruction. If the heart accepts these misconceptions, it will be led to destruction; so one should be very careful. Allah Says (what means): {And indeed, do the devils inspire their allies (among men) to dispute with you. And if you were to obey them, indeed, you would be associators (of others with Him)} [Quran 6:121]

 

Saying that in Islam, the right of the man enjoying his wife is put in priority over the right of the wife in doing so is wrong in principle, completely absurd, and without any basis. Indeed, Islam protected the right of the wife in marital relations and other fields, and there are many other well-known examples but this is not the place to mention them. Here, it is enough to mention the Saying of Allah. Allah the Almighty Says in the Quran (what means): {And live with them in kindness} [Quran 4:19] Allah also Says (what means): {... And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable} [Quran 2:228]

 

Indeed, Islam urges men to marry virgin women, but this is in order to achieve greater benefits than just temporarily, enjoinment such as increasing the progeny, the continuity of marital relationship between the husband and wife and so forth. On the other hand, a woman is not obliged to accept to marry someone who is much older or much younger than her, or someone whose social status is different than hers, and so on. However, when the scholars say that it is desirable for the woman not to refuse a man because of these differences, this is in order to achieve religious benefits. For instance, a woman is generally the one who is asked for marriage by a man whereas she is shy to ask someone to marry her, and if she refuses those who propose to her for marriage, it might be that (after a while) no one else would ask her for marriage, and so, she will remain without being married, and live all her life without a husband. In this case spinsterhood would spread, and this, undoubtedly, leads to many wicked thoughts, temptations, and corruption.

 

Allah Knows best

 

Fatwa answered by: The Fatwa Center at Islamweb